several weeks ago i met with an old friend who has, over the years, helped me learn to communicate differently – particularly in conversations between folks from conservative and progressive camps.

more specifically, she has helped in conversations surrounding questions swirling around discussions surrounding the disconnect between conservatives and LGBT people.

our time together was beautifully frustrating.

my friend was pleased to hear me acknowledge and apologize for the ways in which many evangelical churches have failed to love the gay community well. one of her primary concerns about organized religion – christianity, in particular – is the way in which religious institutions attempt to define and dictate cultural normalcy for everyone, even those who disagree with the beliefs of said religion.

‘every christian i’ve ever met has tried to convert me,’ she said.

some folks i know would nod their head in hearty approval of these attempts at proselytization. for much of my past, i would have been among them.

but not anymore.

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mjkimpan  —  July 18, 2013 — 2 Comments


i’m what you might call ‘directionally challenged.’

i get it from my mother.  the woman could get lost in even the most familiar territory – all it would take is one, simple detour.  regardless of how many times we’d been down that road, no matter how clearly marked the signs were, we would end up getting side-tracked and derailed from our initial destination.  often times, we’d be more than fashionably late.

it seems i’ve inherited her lack of an internal compass, which is one reason i’m grateful for technological advances in recent years. GPS on your phone. Google Maps.

iPhone apps are my friend.

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book deal.

mjkimpan  —  July 16, 2013 — 18 Comments


as in, i have one.

as you may have read here, we’ve been making some big announcements over at The Marin Foundation. and although a few folks noticed that we let the cat out of the bag in our july newsletter, i’ve yet to make the official announcement.

until now.

i am currently standing in my kitchen, looking at a contract from InterVarsity Press (who also published andrew’s award winning, Love Is An Orientation) for me to write my book, provisionally entitled, (re)Discovering Reconciliation.

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LOVE is louder.

mjkimpan  —  July 12, 2013 — 2 Comments

this post was originally written for The Marin Foundation’s blog at, and reflects my experience at our I’m Sorry Campaign this year in chicago.

Last month in cities all across the country, Gay Pride parades began as an annual commemoration of the Stonewall Uprising  in June of 1969. In Chicago, over one million people showed up for the festivities as tens-of-thousands of rainbow-colored feathers and flags waved in support of those marching and standing on the floats passing by. Merchants sold colorful goods along the parade route. Gay and lebian parents walked with their children sitting atop their shoulders to see over the crowd.

These parades are nothing new.

And neither are the protestors.

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too often our definition of the christian faith and spiritual maturity is defined by doctrine, and not how we relate to the people in our lives.

God. people. that’s what matters.

not doctrine.

here, some will state that doctrine is indeed a priority – that it’s in fact the priority; that it’s the primary source for knowledge of living out and growing into our faith. they’ll argue that in order to love God you have to know God; and that in order to know God you have to study God; and in order to study God, you’ve got to have the ‘right’ doctrine. i see how many arrive at this conclusion.

i simply fundamentally disagree.

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Christianity is a lifestyle – a way of being in the world that is simple, non-violent, shared and loving. However, we have made it into an established ‘religion’ (and all that goes with that) and avoided the lifestyle change itself. One could be warlike, greedy, racist, selfish, and vain in most of Christian history, and still believe that Jesus is one’s ‘personal Lord and Savior.’

The world has no time for such silliness anymore. The suffering on earth is too great.

–Fr. Rohr

you, too?

mjkimpan  —  July 1, 2013 — Leave a comment



bono by michka assayas is a truly fascinating read. states,

“Bono’s career is unlike any other in rock history. As the lead singer of U2, Bono has sold 130 million albums, won fourteen Grammys, and played numerous sold-out world tours, but he has also lobbied and worked with world leaders from Bill Clinton and George W. Bush to Nelson Mandela on debt relief, AIDS, and other critical global issues. He has collaborated with the same musicians for nearly three decades and has been married to his childhood sweetheart since 1982. His life, at all turns, resists the rock star clichés.

In a series of intimate conversations with his friend Michka Assayas, a music journalist who has been with the band since the very beginning, Bono reflects on his transformation from the extrovert singer of a small Irish post-punk band into one of the most famous individuals in the world; and from an international celebrity to an influential spokesperson for the Third World. He speaks candidly about his faith, family, commitment, influences, service, and passion. Bono: A Self-Portrait in Conversation is the closest we will come, for now, to a memoir from the iconic frontman of U2.”

what follows is an excerpt from the book in which bono talks about jesus in an interview with the author ::

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i’m sorry ’13.

mjkimpan  —  June 29, 2013 — 10 Comments



this weekend, my neighborhood is filled with folks commemorating the stonewall uprising of 1969 – and celebrating the recent decision by the US supreme court which declared DOMA unconstitutional.

this weekend, in my neighborhood, is the gay pride parade.

literally thousands of people will gather in the streets to watch the floats go by, waving rainbow flags, laughing and smiling and screaming at the top of their lungs.

there will be some other folks there, too.

every year, a group of self-proclaimed ‘christians’ gather to demonstrate and protest against the pride parade. they shout slogans and use bullhorns and have signs that are the modern day equivalent to throwing the first stone. these are the caricatures of an unappealing type of christianity that have earned the church a reputation of being anti-gay, judgmental and hypocritical. they’re likely to be booed by the crowd, but the damage will be done – another example to the LGBT community that they are not welcome in our churches. that God doesn’t love them. that they’re not ‘good enough.’ that they are wrong.

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response to SCOTUS.

mjkimpan  —  June 26, 2013 — 23 Comments


this morning, SCOTUS announced that the so-called Defense of Marriage Act (ironically signed into law by bill clinton during his two-term presidency) is ‘unconstitutional as a deprivation of the equal liberty of persons that is protected by the fifth amendment…DOMA singles out a class of persons deemed by a state entitled to recognition and protection to enhance their own liberty.’

the federal Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) defines ‘marriage,’ for purposes of over a thousand federal laws and programs, as a union between a man and a woman only.

today SCOTUS ruled by a vote of 5-4 that the law is unconstitutional . the court explained that the states have long had the responsibility of regulating and defining marriage, and some states have opted to allow same sex couples to marry – to give them the protection and dignity associated with marriage.

by denying recognition to same-sex couples who are legally married, federal law discriminates against them to express disapproval of state-sanctioned-same-sex marriage.

in other words, same-sex couples who are legally married will be entitled to equal treatment as married opposite-sex couples under federal law – with regard to, for example, income taxes and social security benefits.

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a reminder.

mjkimpan  —  June 24, 2013 — 2 Comments



it’s likely that this week SCOTUS will hand down its ruling on gay marriage , as this is the last week for supreme court decisions.

it could even be today.

so here’s a reminder.

‘if possible – so far as it depends on you – be at peace with all people.

that’s from the bible. romans, to be exact.

regardless of the outcome of the supreme court decision, and whether it falls in line with your preferred definition of marriage or fits into your theological understanding of human sexuality or not… be at peace with all people.

oh, and here’s another reminder – this time from jesus.

‘they will know you are my followers by how you love one another.’

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