no purpose.

mjkimpan  —  January 22, 2013 — 4 Comments

i literally was shaking my head.

scrolling through my twitter feed (a potentially fatal mistake on inauguration day), i saw some hullaballoo over yet another classic from @PastorMark ::

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i’m divorced.

mjkimpan  —  January 21, 2013 — 10 Comments

i’m divorced.

i wish that i wasn’t. but that doesn’t change anything.

it’s a stigma in some circles – and over time i’ve learned to remove myself from relationships where i’m treated as ‘less than’ for mistakes of my past.

that’s not grace.

yet even in communities full of grace – the fact remains :: i failed at my first marriage.

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mom? dad?

mjkimpan  —  January 18, 2013 — Leave a comment


‘mom, i have something to tell you… i’m gay.’

‘dad… i think i’m in the wrong body – i think that i’m really a boy.’

one of the most difficult and life changing statements a parent can hear is that of their child coming out to them. when your daughter tells you she’s a lesbian or your three year old son insists that God made a mistake and he is really a girl, what do you do?

like a bomb being dropped, this revelation has the potential to tear families apart. parents often feel scared, angry, confused, anxious, hopeless and very alone. their hopes and dreams for their children are shaken and replaced with fears of discrimination, AIDS and stigma.

what do you do? to whom do you turn?

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tea and crumpets.

mjkimpan  —  January 17, 2013 — 1 Comment

it’s sometimes hard for my american friends to take a cue from the brits.

there’s a wee bit of history between the two nations, and oftentimes the past is hard to forget – for many, the bridge across the pond was burned back at the boston tea party – or perhaps when mel gibson made the patriot and we relearned revolutionary war history.

and yet we would do well to learn from our polite neighbors across the atlantic, even if they do drink tea, drive on the other side of the road and still have a royal family.

it appears they’re getting on in healthy dialogue better than us.

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i’m soon receiving my copy of ‘community’ from our friend christopher huertz. as i eagerly await its arrival, i am encouraged by these words from its author ::

over the past three years particularly, i have become increasingly convinced of not only the benefit, but of the necessity of doing life together, in community with others.

but, a word of caution :: choose your community wisely.

our inclination is to make up the majority our relationships – our friends, our faith community, our working environment – of people who think similarly to us.  in so doing, we tend to reinforce our prejudices and solidify our dogma, often times becoming increasingly intolerable of those who would dare to challenge our presuppositions to the world.

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(dis)connected, no more.

mjkimpan  —  January 15, 2013 — 5 Comments

what would it look like for us to (re)learn to love? to actually connect the current understanding of what it means to be a christ follower with his teachings and his life?

jesus said we would be known by our love.

i am convinced in order to love well – particularly in a relationship where one or both parties have been hurt or disconnected – we must make a commitment toward fidelity and reconciliation.

fidelity is merely loyalty, dependability and faithfulness in a relationship. around The Marin Foundation, reconciliation is defined as the intentional pursuit of that which is disconnected.

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mjkimpan  —  January 14, 2013 — 4 Comments


last week, we teased out the need for healthier engagement between the church and the LGBT community. we first talked about the temperature and tone of our conversation, and discussed how the current reality is not only unhelpful for creating safe and sacred places which allow peaceful and productive dialogue to flourish, but that it is simply not working.

we pointed out that this way of engaging is unacceptable  – and that it would be insane for us to continue down the path of the status quo.

seemingly right on cue, this past friday’s blogosphere further highlighted the polarizing language and nature of the conversation as it erupted with the news of louie giglio bowing out of his benediction for the presidential inauguration.

but there is hope.

we’re ripe for reconciliation.’

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imbroglio, indeed.

mjkimpan  —  January 11, 2013 — 9 Comments

yesterday the internet exploded with louie giglio’s ‘change of plans‘ as he respectfully withdrew his acceptance to lead the benediction at the president’s inauguration.

ThinkProgress and others demanded the withdrawal in days past, as a sermon surfaced from the 1990’s in which he advocated for dangerous ‘reparative therapy’ for gay and lesbian people and impelled christians to ‘firmly respond to the aggressive agenda’ to prevent the ‘homosexual lifestyle’ from becoming accepted in society.

for those who want a detailed breakdown of the past 72 hours of controversy, click here.

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insanity (not the workout).

mjkimpan  —  January 10, 2013 — 2 Comments

it has been said that the definition of insanity is to repeat the same behavior again and again expecting different results.

and as we discussed in yesterday’s post what we’ve been doing is not working.

the reputation of the church within the broader LGBT community is more of a hindrance than a help to bringing people on either side closer to jesus.

even well-intentioned efforts to engage in conversation with the LGBT community not only have failed to promote peaceful and productive conversation, but have alienated an entire population of people, making the message of christ essentially inaccessible to that population.

that is unacceptable.

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not working.

mjkimpan  —  January 9, 2013 — 9 Comments

in recent years, i’ve intentionally placed myself in the middle of discussions surrounding homosexuality in the church. it’s not just something i read about – it’s something i live on a daily basis, in real relationships with real friends.

i’ve walked alongside members of the LGBT community who are struggling to belong and be welcomed in their places of worship and even within their own families. || they’re Other-ed simply because of their sexuality.

i’ve also walked alongside members of the conservative religious community, who struggle to understand why they’re often labeled by others as ‘homophobic’ or ‘anti-gay.’ || they’re labeled as such simply because of their theology.

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