mjkimpan  —  January 25, 2013 — Leave a comment

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GI jane.

mjkimpan  —  January 24, 2013 — 5 Comments

GI jane
yesterday, secretary of defense leon panetta was reported by the associated press as

‘removing the military’s ban on women serving in combat, opening hundreds of thousands of front-line positions and potentially elite commando jobs after more than a decade at war.

The groundbreaking move recommended by the Joint Chiefs of Staff overturns a 1994 rule banning women from being assigned to smaller ground combat units. Panetta’s decision gives the military services until January 2016 to seek special exceptions if they believe any positions must remain closed to women.’

SBC blogger dennis burke suggested this egalitarian move was evidence of the ‘Undoing of Civilization.’

my response?

it is interesting that the ‘undoing of civilization’ has to do with gender roles and not the fact that we’re in a constant state of war.

what do you think?


i’ve recently been talking with a friend who also attended the 2Days with Rob Bell event in laguna – although he and i went on different weeks, we each shared a very positive experience – and not just because of being on the beach.

in our discussions we’ve reminisced about some of the lessons we individually took back with us to our respective communities, recounting little phrases rob had uttered that stuck.

‘who you are not is not interesting.’

‘create a culture of words, and move from word to flesh. live incarnationally – and help those you lead to the same.’

‘ i believe the best story wins.’

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no purpose.

mjkimpan  —  January 22, 2013 — 4 Comments

i literally was shaking my head.

scrolling through my twitter feed (a potentially fatal mistake on inauguration day), i saw some hullaballoo over yet another classic from @PastorMark ::

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i’m divorced.

mjkimpan  —  January 21, 2013 — 10 Comments

i’m divorced.

i wish that i wasn’t. but that doesn’t change anything.

it’s a stigma in some circles – and over time i’ve learned to remove myself from relationships where i’m treated as ‘less than’ for mistakes of my past.

that’s not grace.

yet even in communities full of grace – the fact remains :: i failed at my first marriage.

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mom? dad?

mjkimpan  —  January 18, 2013 — Leave a comment


‘mom, i have something to tell you… i’m gay.’

‘dad… i think i’m in the wrong body – i think that i’m really a boy.’

one of the most difficult and life changing statements a parent can hear is that of their child coming out to them. when your daughter tells you she’s a lesbian or your three year old son insists that God made a mistake and he is really a girl, what do you do?

like a bomb being dropped, this revelation has the potential to tear families apart. parents often feel scared, angry, confused, anxious, hopeless and very alone. their hopes and dreams for their children are shaken and replaced with fears of discrimination, AIDS and stigma.

what do you do? to whom do you turn?

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tea and crumpets.

mjkimpan  —  January 17, 2013 — 1 Comment

it’s sometimes hard for my american friends to take a cue from the brits.

there’s a wee bit of history between the two nations, and oftentimes the past is hard to forget – for many, the bridge across the pond was burned back at the boston tea party – or perhaps when mel gibson made the patriot and we relearned revolutionary war history.

and yet we would do well to learn from our polite neighbors across the atlantic, even if they do drink tea, drive on the other side of the road and still have a royal family.

it appears they’re getting on in healthy dialogue better than us.

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i’m soon receiving my copy of ‘community’ from our friend christopher huertz. as i eagerly await its arrival, i am encouraged by these words from its author ::

over the past three years particularly, i have become increasingly convinced of not only the benefit, but of the necessity of doing life together, in community with others.

but, a word of caution :: choose your community wisely.

our inclination is to make up the majority our relationships – our friends, our faith community, our working environment – of people who think similarly to us.  in so doing, we tend to reinforce our prejudices and solidify our dogma, often times becoming increasingly intolerable of those who would dare to challenge our presuppositions to the world.

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(dis)connected, no more.

mjkimpan  —  January 15, 2013 — 5 Comments

what would it look like for us to (re)learn to love? to actually connect the current understanding of what it means to be a christ follower with his teachings and his life?

jesus said we would be known by our love.

i am convinced in order to love well – particularly in a relationship where one or both parties have been hurt or disconnected – we must make a commitment toward fidelity and reconciliation.

fidelity is merely loyalty, dependability and faithfulness in a relationship. around The Marin Foundation, reconciliation is defined as the intentional pursuit of that which is disconnected.

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mjkimpan  —  January 14, 2013 — 4 Comments


last week, we teased out the need for healthier engagement between the church and the LGBT community. we first talked about the temperature and tone of our conversation, and discussed how the current reality is not only unhelpful for creating safe and sacred places which allow peaceful and productive dialogue to flourish, but that it is simply not working.

we pointed out that this way of engaging is unacceptable  – and that it would be insane for us to continue down the path of the status quo.

seemingly right on cue, this past friday’s blogosphere further highlighted the polarizing language and nature of the conversation as it erupted with the news of louie giglio bowing out of his benediction for the presidential inauguration.

but there is hope.

we’re ripe for reconciliation.’

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