insanity (not the workout).

mjkimpan  —  January 10, 2013 — 2 Comments

it has been said that the definition of insanity is to repeat the same behavior again and again expecting different results.

and as we discussed in yesterday’s post what we’ve been doing is not working.

the reputation of the church within the broader LGBT community is more of a hindrance than a help to bringing people on either side closer to jesus.

even well-intentioned efforts to engage in conversation with the LGBT community not only have failed to promote peaceful and productive conversation, but have alienated an entire population of people, making the message of christ essentially inaccessible to that population.

that is unacceptable.

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not working.

mjkimpan  —  January 9, 2013 — 9 Comments

in recent years, i’ve intentionally placed myself in the middle of discussions surrounding homosexuality in the church. it’s not just something i read about – it’s something i live on a daily basis, in real relationships with real friends.

i’ve walked alongside members of the LGBT community who are struggling to belong and be welcomed in their places of worship and even within their own families. || they’re Other-ed simply because of their sexuality.

i’ve also walked alongside members of the conservative religious community, who struggle to understand why they’re often labeled by others as ‘homophobic’ or ‘anti-gay.’ || they’re labeled as such simply because of their theology.

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spoiler alert.

mjkimpan  —  January 8, 2013 — 1 Comment

yesterday i introduced a series in which we’ll explore conversations with churches and church leaders regarding their relationship and reputation within the LGBT community. but before we dive into it, we’re going to briefly touch on where i fall in the conversation.

<spoiler alert>

where everybody falls in the conversation with the gay community seems to be a pretty popular discussion these days.

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here to there.

mjkimpan  —  January 7, 2013 — 4 Comments

today marks the first blog post of 2013 at the WayWard follower (thanks for the break!), and also the first post of a series surrounding conversations i’ve had in recent years with churches and church leaders regarding their relationship and reputation within the LGBT community.

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merry Xmas.

mjkimpan  —  December 24, 2012 — 5 Comments

i’m taking a break from posting throughout the remainder of this holiday season – rather than scrambling to find time to post while attempting to find time with family and friends during this season, i’ve determined to take a break and be content in wishing my readers a merry christmas.

i’ll resume my regular posting schedule after the first of the year.

enjoy the rest of your holiday season – and i look forward to engaging with you in the new year! thanks for a great 2012.

end of the world?

mjkimpan  —  December 21, 2012 — 2 Comments

if you’re reading this (which you clearly are), then the mayans got it wrong (or more accurately – as is sometimes the case with ancient documents and cultures – we’ve got our interpretation of the mayan calendar wrong).

alas, the world hasn’t ended. or has it?

yesterday, the huffington post reported that newt gingrich – who once compared same-sex marriage to ‘paganism‘ – declared the battle against gay marriage as pretty much over, giving an option of an acceptable reality to the approval of marriage equality, essentially calling it ‘inevitable.’

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sticks and stones.

mjkimpan  —  December 20, 2012 — 14 Comments


yesterday a friend posted an article on faceboook that’s worth sharing – here’s an excerpt ::

It would take me months and months, and millions of words to adequately illustrate the lack of sensitivity, the perverting of Scripture, and the overall ignorance Huckabee and Dobson and others like them exhibit, when using something like the senseless disaster in Newtown to somehow give ammo to their agenda and credence to  their cause.

For now, let me just say; to every victim, every grieving family member, every frightened classmate, every terrified parent, every [scared] first-responder, and every questioning, hurting, hopeless person across this nation seeking from religious leaders; healing, and finding only contempt…

…I’m sorry.

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show and tell.

mjkimpan  —  December 19, 2012 — 1 Comment

the following post is an email response i wrote recently to a pastor friend who’s learning to navigate living in the tension of a life committed to loving like jesus. he shared several painful stories from his friends whom have been hurt by the church. this was my response ::

this is not how it’s supposed to be.

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mjkimpan  —  December 18, 2012 — 19 Comments

we’re all processing the pain of recent events in our own way. yesterday i posted some resources that i found helpful.

when i did so, i avoided commenting on the countless unhelpful responses i’ve watched transpire on my news feeds.

literally. countless.

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mjkimpan  —  December 17, 2012 — 18 Comments

yesterday at churches across the nation, pastors grappled with how to address the tragic events at sandy hook with their congregations.

the entire country was captivated by the horrific news on friday in which a lone gunman shot his own mother four times in the head before subsequently entering sandy hook elementary school, killing 26 people – 20 of whom were children, ages 6 and 7.

the question on everyone’s mind ::

how could God let this happen?

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